Monday, December 17, 2007

Napoleon Hill- On Love

Go back into your yesterdays, at times, and bathe your mind in the beautiful memories of past love. It will soften the influence of the present worries and annoyances. It will give you a source of escape from the unpleasant realities of life, and maybe--who knows?--your mind will yield to you, during this temporary retreat into the world of fantasy, ideas, or plans which may change the entire financial or spiritual status of your life.If you believe yourself unfortunate, because you have "loved and lost," perish the thought. One who has loved truly, can never lose entirely. Love is whimsical and temperamental. Its nature is ephemeral, and transitory. It comes when it pleases, and goes away without warning. Accept and enjoy it while it remains, but spend no time worrying about its departure. Worry will never bring it back.Dismiss, also, the thought that love never comes but once. Love may come and go, times without number, but there are no two love experiences which affect one in just the same way. There may be, and there usually is, one love experience which leaves a deeper imprint on the heart than all the others, but all love experiences are beneficial, except to the person who becomes resentful and cynical when love makes its departure.There should be no disappointment over love, and there would be none if people understood the difference between the emotions of love and sex. The major difference is that love is spiritual, while sex is biological. No experience, which touches the human heart with a spiritual force, can possibly be harmful, except through ignorance, or jealousy.Love is, without question, life's greatest experience. It brings one into communion with Infinite Intelligence. When mixed with the emotions of romance and sex, it may lead one far up the ladder of creative effort. The emotions of love, sex, and romance, are sides of the eternal triangle of achievement-building genius. Nature creates genii through no other force.

From Chapter 11: The Mystery of Sex Transmutation.

Think and Grow Rich, Napoleon Hill1937

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Sunday, November 25, 2007

Kahlil Gibran: Quote on "Beauty"

Are you troubled by the many faiths that Mankind professes? Are you lost in the valley of conflicting beliefs? Do you think that freedom of heresy is less burdensome than the yoke of submission, and the liberty of dissent safer than the stronghold of acquiescence?

If such be the case, then make Beauty your religion, and worship her as your godhead; for she is the visible, manifest and perfect handiwork of God. Cast off those who have toyed with godliness as if it were a sham, joining together greed and arrogance; but believe instead in the divinity of beauty that is at once the beginning of your worship of Life, and the source of your hunger for Happiness.

The Voice of the Master

Kahlil Gibran

Monday, November 5, 2007

Springsteen's "Radio Nowhere"

Nov 2007 Rolling Stone Interview with Bruce Springsteen:

"I want to go back for a moment to "Radio Nowhere." There's an invocation of Elvis when the narrator is "searching for a mystery train." What's he looking for?

What everybody's looking for. The ever-unattainable but absolutely there part of life that's slightly out of your fingertips, slightly shaded in the dark somewhere. But within, it contains all the essences and raw physical vitality and blood and bone and sweat of living. It's the thing that makes it all worth it at the end of the day, even if you just get the tip of your tounge on it. It's our history. It's that train that's been running since they friggin' landed over here on the boat, and it's roaring with all of us right now, that thing. That's what I like to look for.



RADIO NOWHERE

I was trying to find my way home
But all I heard was a drone
Bouncing off a satellite
Crushing the last lone American night

(Chorus:)
This is Radio Nowhere
Is there anybody alive out there
This is Radio Nowhere
Is there anybody alive out there

I was sitting around a dead dial
Just another lost number in a file
Dancing down a dark hole
Just a-searching for a world with some soul

(Chorus)

I just wanna hear some rhythm
I just wanna hear some rhythm
I just wanna hear some rhythm
I just wanna hear some rhythm

I want a thousand guitars
I want pounding drums
I want a million different voices
Speaking in tongues

(Chorus)

I was driving through the misty rain
Just a-searching for a mystery train
Bopping through the wild blue
Trying to make a connection with you

(Chorus)

I just wanna hear some rhythm
I just wanna hear some rhythm
I just wanna hear your rhythm
I just wanna hear your rhythm

Sunday, November 4, 2007

I want to be a light bulb

"I turn next to the idea of glory. There is no getting away from the fact that this idea is very prominent inthe New Testament and in early Christian writings. Salvation is constantly associated with palms, crowns, white robes, thrones, and splendour like the sun and stars. All this makes no immediate appeal to me at all, and in that respect I fancy I am a typical modern. Glory suggests two ideas to me, of which one seems wicked and the other ridiculous. Either glory means to me fame, or it means luminosity. As for the first, since to be famous means to be better known than other people, the desire for fame appears to me as a competitive pas­sion and therefore of hell rather than heaven. As for the second, who wishes to become a kind of living electric light bulb?

"When I began to look into this matter I was shocked to find such different Christians as Milton, Johnson, and Thomas Aquinas taking heavenly glory quite frankly in the sense of fame or good report. But not fame conferred by our fellow creatures—fame with God, approval or (I might say) "appreciation" by God. And then, when I had thought it over, I saw that this view was scriptural; nothing can, eliminate from the parable the divine accolade, "Well done, thou good and faithful servant." With that, a good deal of what I had been thinking all my life fell down like a house of cards. I suddenly remembered that no one can enter heaven except as a child; and nothing is so obvious in a child— not in a conceited child, but in a good child—as its great and undisguised pleasure in being praised. Not only in a child, either, but even in a dog or a horse. Apparently what I had mistaken for humility had, all these years, prevented me from understanding what is in fact the humblest, the most childlike, the most creaturely of pleasures—nay, the specific pleasure of the inferior: the pleasure of a beast before men, a child before its father, a pupil before his teacher, a creature be­fore its Creator. I am not forgetting how horribly this most innocent desire is parodied in our human ambi­tions, or how very quickly, in my own experience, the lawful pleasure of praise from those whom it was my duty to please turns into the deadly poison of self-admiration. But I thought I could detect a moment—a very, very short moment—before this happened, dur­ing which the satisfaction of having pleased those whom I rightly loved and rightly feared was pure. And that is enough to raise our thoughts to what may hap­pen when the redeemed soul, beyond all hope and nearly beyond belief, learns at last that she has pleased Him whom she was created to please. There will be no room for vanity then. She will be free from the miser­able illusion that it is her doing."

(Lewis, CS, The Weight of Glory)

Friday, October 5, 2007

On Happiness, by Ellen Charry



In the opening lecture of our theology course one year, I told my class that theology is concerned with human happiness. Two students in the front row became uneasy at this statement and let me know indirectly that from that moment on, they discounted me. Here I seek to remind such students that to discount the importance of human happiness is to misunderstand theology and its purpose in two senses. First, if they think that theology is limited to believing propositions in order to get to heaven, they imply that theology is not about life in this world. Even a cursory glance at Christian thought disproves this contention. The second misunderstanding hits at the heart of this enterprise. Even if they think that theology is interested in this life, they are not persuaded that it is particularly interested in our enjoyment of it.

My purpose here is to dispel these common misperceptions. The task of theology is to help us know, love, and enjoy God better.1 The purpose for knowing God better is to love "him" and that loving we may enjoy him. Further, that enjoying him we may dwell in him and that in dwelling in him that we may glorify and be glorified in him and that in being glorified in him we may be happy, or, at least enjoy all the days of our life. To put the point sharply, a God-centered life is joyous and happily productive. It blesses not only individuals, but also society, and one s contribution to society by means of a God-centered liie enhances personal satisfaction.

Sadly, the misunderstanding of theology that I hope to dispel is widespread, even among Christians. Perhaps this is one reason why Christianity has such a dour reputation. Christians are perceived as anxious, moralistic, and judgmental. They have a reputation for being serious, and in our culture, being serious means not fun-loving. Another example of this assumption of the divide between piety and happiness pops up in an article critical of the contemporary moral philosopher Peter Singer of Princeton University:

We might well finally admit, however, that utilitarian values-utility, pleasure, preferences-seem particularly barren. Most of us, religious or otherwise, believe as [Shalom] Asch puts it, "there are things other than 'happiness' that matter: peace, justice, equality, wisdom." When the utilitarians want to say everything reduces to happiness, they're making a claim broader than happiness.2

We do not need to judge every aspect of life by whether or not it brings happiness. Sadness and despair also enrich life. Separating enjoyment, pleasure, and personal preference from peace, justice, equality, and wisdom, as Oppenheimer does, accepts the trivialization of happiness that dominates the culture. The trivial notion is that happiness is a state of mild euphoria.
This trivial view cannot work and it robs us of a salutary understanding of happiness. Ironically, Asch, cited to show the barrenness of the utilitarian view, reveals the barrenness of the trivial view resulting from the disjunction of happiness from beauty, wisdom, and goodness. I shall take up the ancient position that it is precisely living peacefully, justly, fairly, and wisely (to stay with Oppenheimer's terms) that make a person truly happy.

Living well is key to a happy life. Further, since peace, justice, fairness, and wisdom outlast our energy most of the time, we need a fixed point toward which to navigate to shape us into people who are capable of enjoying life in this richer way. My suggestion is that God is key to happiness in this life. In other words, we are shallow if we think of happiness as a state of mild emotional euphoria. A more substantial approach is to think of happiness as deep-seated satisfaction and enjoyment of life that is safe from its inevitable chances and changes: that is, it is far more rewarding to think of happiness in theological terms than in emotional terms.

Now, if we were to press Asch and his supporters for candor, perhaps they would say that the "things other than 'happiness' " are indeed more important. These may be summarized for now as goodness. Peace, justice, equality, and wisdom are forms of goodness that are more important than happiness, perhaps because they are social goods, while happiness, having been privatized, is thought to be selfserving.

This attitude is socially disastrous, because on its terms there is no reason ior people to want to contribute to the common good, since they assume that it will not make them happy (unless they become careerists). seeking happiness, which ancient philosophy recognized to be a universal and proper desire, now opposes being good. Concern for the loss of civility, the triumph of "autonomous individualism" so bemoaned in recent sociology-as in the writings of Robert Bellahis partly the result of an assumed enmity between goodness and happiness. The tacit assumption (or fear) here seems to be that being good will impede becoming happy. Acting peacefully and justly, treating people fairly, living wisely or prudently, are assumed not to be fulfilling but exhausting, draining, or depleting. Goodness, then, is assumed to burden us somehow, or perhaps empty us of something we need, or lead to a "boring" rather than an "exhilarating" life.

What lies behind the assumption that being good is unrewarding? Perhaps it is that being good requires restraint, having extended regard for others, sacrificing for their sake, and exerting self-mastery. Restraint is unpleasant, and lack of restraint, fun. It is an empty fun, however. The assumption apparently is that excellences are painful: they make us dissatisfied, or perhaps are simply tiresome. Perhaps another element in the disdain for careful self-use is that living carefully in this manner takes effort and a particular style of spiritual selftending. The reigning view of happiness is that it should not require spiritual effort, but be easy. Perhaps ease itself is thought to epitomize happiness: life should be constantly and effortlessly easy.

Here I argue that the popular understanding of happiness is based on a perverted psychology of happiness that is self-deluding and self-defeating. The popular notion of happiness is, of course, morally impoverished, but perhaps more compellingly, it is both psychologically impoverished and counterproductive. It does not satisfy. The task of rejoining happiness to goodness, wisdom and-noita bene-beauty is essential in our day, moreover, because the false and trivial understanding of happiness with which we currently live creates unhappy people. It is both psychologically and socially damaging.

The use of the word "rejoining" in the previous paragraph may deserve comment. Neither ancient philosophy, which identified various spiritual pathways to the good life, nor the Christian theology it inspired, ever separated enjoyment from goodness. Modem sensibility has simply failed to attend to this union, as the knowability of goodness, and eventually even the notion of goodness itself dissolved under criticism. The emotional allergy to transcendence and goodness must be broken through in order to alleviate our spiritual suffering under an emaciated vision of happiness. The questions now are: (1) Can we again come to know and yearn for beauty, wisdom, and goodness? and (2) Can these again become the comfort of our bodies and souls to the glorification of God and our neighbors?

The Challenge

The separation of happiness from goodness and the possibility of repairing the breach have at least two intersecting dimensions. One is philosophical, that is, both epistemological and ontological. Another dimension of the problem is spiritual-pride-and that is a problem no matter which side we advocate. Let us approach each in turn.

The high modern error

High modernity concluded that we could not know God, and moved from there to the (dreary) material view that reality is neither spiritual nor transcendent. We must content ourselves, therefore, with material goods and control over nature in this life. A consequence of this flat epistemology and ontology is psychological. Without transcendence, the soul became a self, increasingly interpreted in terms of personal biography rather than in terms ol its relation to God.

This reveals the basic spiritual problem of the secular conception. Without a transcendent perspective that locates enjoyment of life in a pattern of meaning more dignifying than self-gratification, enjoyment withers on the vine. For we need to share our joys and sorrows with others in ways that enhance their spiritual dignity. This suggests that the asocial ideal of the autonomous individual is limited in the enjoyment of life it can produce.

What we think will satisfy may only make us hungrier for more of what we think will satisfy. Envisioning "happiness" as essentially private gratification can become addicting, and it certainly is stultifying. In short, the privatization of happiness in modernity rendered the notion of happiness self-defeating. It cannot save because the terms on which it is set up are isolating, adversarial, self-absorbing, and ultimately demeaning. In short, modernity lost appreciation for the sociality of happiness.

Another error of the current view of happiness is that it means a constant state of mild euphoria. On these terms, no one can be happy for more than a few moments at a time. Additionally, while some aspects of ones life-like eating a great meal-will bring happiness, paying for it may not; happiness is always in danger of spoiling. Euphoric emotions come and go with circumstance. A more substantial view of happiness would suggest that it is a power of the soul, a virtue capable of encompassing life's vicissitudes. Being happy is, at least in part, a matter of character having to do with temperament and personality.

Finally, the asocial modem notion of happiness as self-gratification is smug-it assumes that we know what will make us happy and that we are able to get it. That we must oppose others in order to do so reveals a self-centeredness and adversarial approach to them that leads to loneliness.

The quest for self-gratification now substitutes for salvation. The disjunction of felicity from goodness is a modem mistake that has philosophical origins, psychological corollaries, and spiritual and social consequences. The task, then, is to articulate a spiritually rich vision of living wisely.3 To do this we will need to reclaim a transcendent perspective that includes knowledge of God toward which to steer and care for the soul that carries us beyond personal biography.

The christian error

While modem philosophy turned happiness into a private feeling, Christian theology also contributed to the trivialization of happiness by leaving the field. Some strands of Christian piety and theology suspect that enjoying life is somehow impious. This is due partly to the interpretation of humility that developed in medieval monasticism and partly because of poor theological education of monastics.4 A heavy emphasis on humility, introduced into the Western tradition through Benedicts rule, was interpreted as requiring self-denigration or self-abnegation.5 Monastic reform often discouraged intellectual curiosity, imagination, and laughter, and permitted severe restrictions on iood, sleep, sex, friendship, and property in an attempt to curtail natural desires.

While abbots and confessors often frowned upon ascetic excesses, popular piety exalted martyrs and figures like Simon Stylites (d. 459), who lived for thirty-seven years atop a pillar, and Catherine of Siena who, over the strong opposition of her confessor and her family, starved herself to death in an expression of eucharistic piety.

This suspicion of pleasure spilled over to the laity. In modernity, Pietism disapproved of alcohol, dancing, gambling, smoking, and entertainment in general, while judaism frowned on competitive and contact spoils. Some styles of piety in judaism, Christianity, and Islam frowned on art-at least representational art-and music other than the singing or chanting of prayer. Whether intentionally or not, these guards against untoward attitudes suggested that even modest pleasure could be spiritually harmful.

The modern sensibility reversed all this. Unfortunately, it overreacted and missed the spiritual reality that ascetical practices were seeking. It limited knowledge to empirical, demonstrable, or rationally deductible information. With acceptance of Feuerbachs insistence that "God" is no more than a projection of human values onto heaven, secularity triumphed and so happiness was trivialized into self-gratification, for spiritual or theological truth was no longer thought to meet us and shape us to itself.

To illustrate this, allow us to return to St. Catherine who ate only the host in order to fill herself with Christ. Enjoying normal food became impossible for Catherine because she tried to have God perfectly and wholly in this world, a goal that the tradition of Christian spirituality has usually held to be impossible. She viewed her body as lacking something that eating normal food could not repair. St. Catherine, great reformer of the church though she was, was unable to see the need for food as a gift from God, but saw it as an obstacle to having God. She desired to participate in Christ's suffering in order to get closer to him, but failed to see that God celebrates our bodies by giving Christ to become them.

Furthermore, most Christian theology teaches that life is a training ground for the vision of God that can only be enjoyed fully in eternity. That is, ior most Christian theology, the relationship between creation and redemption is continuous to some degree. That continuity between now and then is the basis of Christian hope, for without at least a hint of the beauty and goodness of God in daily life, we would not know what hope looks like. Like an aperitif or appetizer, a taste of God arouses the desire for more. St. Catherine may have understood this theologically, but she was unable to apply it to her own life. She starved herself to death at age thirty-three, the same age at which Jesus died, as a result of what looks to many of us like defiant pride rather than obedient humility.

Catherine lost sight of the fact that eating is an act of obedience to God who gave us bodies to care for. She did not see how she could enter into the beauty of God and enjoy the beauty of her bodily needs too. She sought to circumvent the normal pathway of life that accustoms our eyes to seeing and our mouths to tasting God. She wanted a shortcut. In her own way, she too had too narrow a view of enjoyment, only from the opposite direction. She lacked a vision of enjoyment of life's pleasures as obedience to the divine will. She suffered from a radical disjunction between earth and heaven, creation and redemption, her body and God, the knower and the known.

Humility, perhaps now the most despised of Christian virtues, is, nevertheless, essential to happiness. Here we see how easily it slips over into pride. The desire for ascetical perfection became harmful and led monks into depression and despair, a psychological condition called accidia, first recognized by Evagrius of Pontus (d. 399). In St. Catherine's case, pride defeated the search for humility when she disobeyed the law of the body.

In sum, in opposite ways both the modem and the Christian traditions have undermined a vibrant and salutary notion of happiness, each by going to its own extreme. Devoid of goodness, "happiness" is reduced to mere fun, and that can be socially and psychologically destructive. Devoid of material satisfaction, "happiness" in God can become physically and psychologically destructive. A robust theological teaching on happiness must avoid both extremes. To do that it must reclaim the connection between the spiritual and the material, as captured in the Christian teaching on the Incarnation and the classical teaching on the sacraments. Our attempt here will be to elucidate a vision of human happiness that is grounded in Christian theology, materially and spiritually nurturing to body and soul, and socially salutary.

Concerning knowing

Happiness, we argue, is a state of the soul that can be cultivated through a certain way of knowing. It depends upon knowing, because knowing shapes the soul. We will attend to two aspects of knowing: how we know-well or poorly-and what we know-a better or poorer object.

The knowledge we assimilate shapes us depending upon the effect what we come to understand deeply has on us. We become attached to what we know well. Intense emotional responses, be they positive or negative, stay with us. The more deeply things we desire or dislike stay with us the more deeply they take up residence in us, so that they become us. We can become both what we love and what we hate. The emotional power things have over us shapes our souls. Further, the formative influence of knowing may be either good or bad for us, depending on the quality of the knowledge and the object known. Much of this process may be pre-articulate. We may experience but be unable to name or grab hold of what is happening to us. That is one reason why it is difficult to know whether the way we are going will enable us to experience the enjoyment, gratification, and satisfaction we seek.

All this suggests that happiness requires discerning what is good to know well from what is bad to know well. Growing into a happy life requires prioritizing what is to get more, and what less, of our attention. The philosophical and spiritual traditions often suggest that we need a teacher to lead the way. Mentors from ancient philosophy and other spiritual traditions will lead us into the knowledge we seek. We cannot do this on our own. It may not be possible for everyone, and for many only in varying degrees. The ability to be spiritually nourished is itself a gift; one cannot impose it on oneself or on another. The argument here is that the beauty, wisdom, and goodness of God provide us with a pattern of meaning for our lives that bends the soul toward happiness by leading us in the care and nurture of human dignity.

Perhaps now we are ready for a theological notion of happiness or flourishing-enjoyment of and satisfaction with life through participation in the properties we understand to characterize God that become us.

The Evanescence of Happiness

The quest for happiness is perennial and evanescent. It drives philosophy, medicine, politics, and spirituality down the ages. Suggestions for achieving happiness are hard won, as the story of Siddartha Gautama, the Buddha, and the dialogues of Plato attest. Things that please have a way of getting lost, used up, worn out, being difficult to transfer from one life situation to another, or simply coming to an end. Relationships sour or fade. Wealth is subject to the vagaries of the market. Health fails. Accidents interrupt. Thinking realistically, one might settle for no more than medium-term or fragmentary happiness. Alternatively, one might be willing to trade in even medium-term happiness for fun, or even a few moments of excitement to spice up a banal life or provide respite from distress.

Yet titillation is not happiness. Even with modest expectations, anxiety has a way of spoiling the day. The bridal couple knows that death, if not something else, will eventually separate them. The mother nursing her baby knows that the time of weaning will come. The ride on the roller coaster will finish, leaving only a memory. Is that enough?

Perhaps more disappointingly, sometimes the things we think will make us happy fail to do so. Marriages are brittle these days. People move and change jobs often. Happiness spoils easily, robbing us even of pleasant memories.

Moved by the thought of lurching continuously among disappointments, ancient philosophers came to think of happiness in daily life as requiring a kind of knowledge that can direct expectations and control behavior in order to maximixe immediate enjoyment while minimizing disappointment and frustration. This changed the notion of happiness from something adventitious, over which the seeker has some limited control-wealth, beautiful children, a successful job or marriage-to something about the soul itself that gave the seeker greater control. This frees the soul from circumstance, giving it a power to minimize disappointment. To be more precise, happiness requires a quality of the soul to know well, an ability to see beyond the self, beyond immediate desire in a certain spiritual or philosophical way. It is a way of life that can be cultivated.

A personal anecdote may illustrate. I was once interviewed for a position at a theological seminary. The interviews took a full day. At the end of the day the dean offered to drive me to the train, since it wiis a very hot summer day. In the car he told me that the whole day had been a sham, since once they saw that I was white, it was clear that I would not be hired. I thanked him for his candor. Now I was not happy at the news that I would not be considered for the position because of my race, but the unhappiness was mitigated by the knowledge that my not being hired might serve a greater good. I was pleased to have been able to contribute to redressing racial grievances even if passively. The information provided soothed me. My belief in a greater good of which I was a part enabled me to interpret the events toward a happy outcome.

In short, being or becoming happy is a spiritual art. A question we will need to address is whether we can teach and learn these skills.

In the West, this way of knowing has to do with considering what we enjoy in the medium and short term in a long-term context that transcends each enjoyable instance. The gratification of being part of a larger reality that gives each experience a purpose beyond its momentary accomplishment buffers the soul against life's disappointments. Gratification comes from either the thing or event itself for its own sake, and from having a stake in and contributing to what is larger than its role in ones personal narrative. This knowledge endows one's personal biography with direction and gifts it with pleasure by expanding its range of concern beyond itself. Knowing that ones life and even one s suffering contributes to something beyond one's personal narrative connects happiness with dignity and nobility of purpose, for it is in being lifted up beyond self-interest that one s efforts reach their goal. It is a skill of the soul to be able to put experience into a larger non-self-reflexive pattern.

To summarize thus far, we can say that gratification that constitutes happiness requires seeing the transcendent good or value in immediate experiences and seasons of life so that momentary enjoyment gains a larger and more exalted meaning after the pleasurable event ends. This is a demanding undertaking that requires one to be both thoroughly engaged in the immediate experience and able to look at it from outside itself simultaneously. For only by enjoying the pleasure for itself while it is present and enjoying it on a more enduring level at the same time, will the anxiety at the thought of its loss be mitigated, and the happiness it brings be sustained. Achieving ones immediate goals requires knowledge, patience, and skill. Happiness proves to be no different. It requires largeness of soul.

That happiness comes from within went into hiding during modernity. The prospect of alleviating pain and suffering promised precisely what escaped philosophers who looked for spiritual remedies. Happiness from without, achieved by improving the length and quality of life, lay just around the corner. New political, economic, and social class arrangements promised happiness of a different sort. In this context, the modem self seemed to bring happiness closer because opportunity and activity could be tailored to one s own interests and needs in the immediacy of daily life.

In this atmosphere, reflection on happiness became utilitarian, partly because people were distracted by other things and partly because it seemed to be less needed as quality of life expanded. Better science meant fewer dips in life. Yet this view of happiness suggests that people who lived before modem medicine could not have been happy. Hmm. . . . More seriously, however, a radical shift in epistemology threatened happinesss own identity. The very notion of knowledge of reality beyond phenomenal experience, and more recently beyond personal biography seemed inaccessible if not implausible or impossible. "Happiness" became, in part, the ability to repair kinks in ones personal narrative.

Until modernity, Western civilization ordered happiness to knowing God who provided standards of truth, goodness, and therefore, happiness. Modem epistemology denied precisely this possibility because it separated fact from value, evidence from meaning. While some applauded this circumstance-not without reason-it became an epistemic necessity. Happiness in the philosophical or spiritual sense became impossible because it depended upon a vision of reality in which experience found larger than momentary meaning. Knowledge of God became impossible. Enjoyment and gratification had to be in immediate experience since there was no longer empirical evidence for anything else. This encouraged self-reference, rather than dignity from participating in transcendent goods as the locus of happiness.


Surprisingly, the story of science, economics, and technology has taken an unanticipated twist. We have discovered that improving length and quality of life does not necessarily make us happy. Ironically, the prospect of more improvement poisons what we already have. The ancient Jewish sage Rabbi ben Zoma opined: "Who is rich? The one who is content with what he hits" (Pirke Avot 4:1). The demand for ever better technology, now an economic necessity, feeds a desire for ubiquitous pleasantness and convenience. We want everlonger life under the best and most pleasant circumstances at all times. We desire more control over and more choice in more things. We crave what we imagine to be the perfect body, education, occupation, and children. For us, the tree of knowledge is the tree of technology. Wanting it is the kiss of death. It appeals to our vanity and soothes our insecurities, just as the serpent did in paradise.


We are more efficient at destroying as well as healing the body than over before. At the same time, we have expanded long-term feebleness and mandated the survival of deformed infants, creating and prolonging suffering and misery that death once mercifully ended. Modem medicine and technology (not to speak of advertising) cultivate discontent. They keep the economy growing. Ironically, they limit our choices by pressing technology on us.


Advertising exploits our weakness to the hilt. Like an addict, craving for the new, the better, the bigger, the faster, is necessary just to keep from falling behind. As a culture, we have lost the notion that bottomless craving is a problem. We do not see it as an obsession. The intentional enhancement of craving spells the end of satisfaction, the end of enjoyment. It robs us of happiness. Amazingly, we have created boredom out of constant change that we are scarcely able to absorb. We are scrambling to keep up and eager to discard simultaneously. Mounting their own protest of sorts, wealthy adolescent girls will insist on buying their clothes secondhand.


Enjoyment of material things requires being attached to them as they are so that one wants to protect and conserve them. The disposable society deprives us of enjoying material things, since goods have a short life and marketing urges us to discard easily. The search for the perfect lover is another example of the inability to be satisfied. It breeds chronic discontent, even petulance.


The end of satisfaction is a curse. It destroys enjoyment of things for their own sake. Focusing on how we will get what we want next undermines interest in what is at hand; the present is only an instrument for getting somewhere or something else. Without satisfaction, we are not motivated to attend to what is in front of us, for we know it will soon be gone, surpassed by another. New, easily gotten things are simply tomorrows trash. Again, our honor and dignity are weakened.


Even more ironically, this situation recapitulates a criticism of Christianity. With life being incorrigibly "nasty, brutish, and short," as Thomas Hobbes put it, life was expected to be a vale of tears on the way to eternal bliss. It was not valued for itself, but only as a gateway to heaven. Now we live with a secularized version of the same hope. We no longer enjoy material goods, for they are outmoded almost as soon as we Ieam how to use them. It is the future, not the present, that excites us. We are victims of our own trap. We are now left without enjoyment of either the spiritual life or material goods!


Here we reopen the conversation about happiness. Medieval monastics sought to abstain from enjoying daily life, lest they prefer it to God. Their assumption that in enjoying life we are not enjoying God is problematic and has contributed to our current problems. Nevertheless, our situation is quite different. When enjoying God seemed out of reach, we turned to enjoying life. Yet now the cultivation of craving robs us even of that. When faith in technology breeds chronic discontent, even low-grade greed and jealousy, seeking happiness in the here and now becomes burdensome. We need to rcleam to enjoy material as well as spiritual things.


Mutatis mutandis: there is great wisdom in the adage that the only constant is change. The collapse of one of the assumptions of modernity that contributed to the privatization of happiness offers those who seek happiness a great opportunity. Modernity defined knowledge as that which can be demonstrated objectively. The craving for objectivity, inherent in empirical science, comes from the desire to stamp out superstition, and establish uniform order and control over events. This led John Locke to identify faith taken on authority as private and to separate it from knowledge that was empirically verifiable and therefore public. Kantian rationality claimed that only universal and objective deductive reasoning yields knowledge. As a result, faith became opinion or personal preference.


Faith in God as opinion rather than knowledge eliminated theological knowledge as public or shareable. As each of the traditional rational proofs for the existence of God fell before the modern philosophical critique, knowledge of God softened. The most we could be sure of regarding God is what people believed they knew, but this is not theological knowledge but tradition. Further, empirical evidence was lacking to support the testimonies of Scripture and tradition. These continued to suffice for people who threw their lot in with hoary communities that offered wisdom, guidance, and comfort. More demanding minds preferred the security of reason to the comfort of forgiveness. For both empiricists and rationalists, although we cannot know God, we surely can know something about ourselves, and that must suffice. Without a transcendent dimension to identity, however, personal biography became the foundation of identity. The personal became the private, and happiness was enfolded into the private realm as a, if not the, goal of personal narrative.


In sum, the truncation of knowledge collapsed the soul that once connected earth to heaven into personal biography. Now in bloated distortion, the narrated self stands without obligation or responsibility except to its own happiness that eventually became reduced to fun.
A postcritical approach


In the second half of the twentieth century, the stirrings of postcritical philosophy began to counter modem critical philosophy. Michael Polanyi pointed out that in science, leaving the researcher's judgments out of the account of knowledge that s/he arrives at is not possible. Reasonable claims include intuition, judgment, and commitment on the part of the claimer. Gabriel Marcel argued for the importance of mystery over against empirical abstraction. The disjunction between knower and known became fuxzy. Hans Georg Gadamer argued that the prejudices of the claimer cannot be left out of the search for truth. Questioning the modern doctrine of impersonal universal reason this way expands the notion of what counts as public knowledge beyond the positivist position. Alasdair MacIntyre reclaimed the Aristotelian virtue tradition; Charles Taylor, the Platonic tradition of value, jerry Gill drew on Polanyi, the later Wittgenstein, and Merleau-Ponty to offer a fresh vision of religious knowledge and experience, while Janet Soskice contributed to a renewed critical realism.


This postcritical movement provides an opportunity to reopen epistemological options that modernity closed, because it recognizes that the investigators interests and preferences are present in every realistic account of public knowledge. That is, to some extent, the knower shapes the known. Further, postcritical philosophy recognizes that the known also shapes the knower. For to the extent that we crave knowledge of whatever sort, we cannot be whole without it. Once we have it we cannot be unaffected or undirected by it, but are led by it into a larger self than we had before.


To suggest that knower and known mutually shape one another does not require that the process is idiosyncratic. It is probable that we only know in personalized ways and yet that this knowledge is public in the sense of being recognizable to others in ways that arouse interest and desire for it. If so, it is possible to invite others into knowledge of this sort, even if fingerprints are on the package and it is not sterile or pure. Poets, novelists, and dramatists do this all the time. One result of recognizing a broader range of what counts as knowledge is that it could again become possible to talk about knowing God in a public manner.


Part of the freedom of the current philosophical moment is that we are able to step back from objectivity and see that it is a limited, perhaps even a flawed, though powerful ideology. This critical distance enables us then to see that objectivity as the sole criterion for what counts as knowledge is too limiting to accommodate the human craving for happiness. For it rules out the role that values, desires, experience, and commitments inevitably play in the construction of knowledge.


For example, an instructor teaches his medical students that if they do not look for something in examining a patient, they will not find it. We inevitably see and hear selectively, depending on what we are expecting or hoping to find. Data alien to our mind-set often escapes our notice, only to be picked up by someone else. If we are fortunate enough to be around at that time, the second observer may point out to us what we passed over, enabling us to see more and better. So it is with theological and spiritual knowledge. On our own, we may not see or hear, but with the skills of knowing what to look for, the world becomes larger and spiritual truth can emerge.
The cult of objectivity cut us off from the possibility that knowledge involves us in itself and that it is not simply discovered by or given to us apart from who we are. This is to suggest that knowledge is irreducibly theological because it gives purpose to life. We are not indifferent to it and it is not passive toward us, but may grab us up into itself, reshaping us.


Postcritical epistemology now makes it possible to reopen the question of how and how well we can know God. If theological knowledge is again possible, we could have our souls back. This would revivify the possibility of speaking of human happiness in theological terms, that is, the possibility of recognizing the importance of knowing God for human happiness.


1 This definition appears to separate this endeavor from attempts to argue for or justify the epistemic conditions under which it would be reasonable to accept the reality of God that is the proper province of epistemology. That this is not the case will be seen in due course.
2 Mark Oppenheimer, "Who Lives? Who Dies?," The Christian Century, July 3-10, 2002: 29.
3 This vision will thus differ from other theological visions that accept the individualist thesis, and recognizing its limitations exhort love of neighbor as a religious or moral obligation.
4 Extreme ascetical discipline is not representative of medieval Christianity in general, as Eamon Duffy's work demonstrates. See The Stripping of the. Altars (New Haven and London: Yale University Press, 1992).
5 This theme survived into Protestantism through Jean Calvin.
ELLEN T. CHARRY*
* Ellen T. Charry is the Margaret W. Harmon Associate Professor of Systematic Theology at Princeton Theological Seminary. In memory of Jim Griffiss she is honored to share here selections from her current book project. It picks up some themes from theological conversations they had. A few paragraphs appeared in an editorial for Theology Today (April 2002).



Copyright Anglican Theological Review, Inc. Winter 2004Provided by ProQuest Information and Learning Company. All rights Reserved

Sunday, September 30, 2007

SoulCravings: The Answer is the Question (or the other way around)


THERE IS PROOF OF GOD IN ALL THIS, BUT WE'VE BEEN looking in the wrong place. Before you can find God in the answers, you have to find him in the questions.


Maybe the answers come from us, so we come up with a million of them. But the questions... there's something mysterious about the questions.


We all ask them;

we all have them;

and no matter where we come from

or what time in history we have lived,

the questions are always the same.

As important as the answers might be,

what's even more revealing is that we even have

questions: ?????????????????????????????????????????????????

Why do we need to know?

What drives us to search for answers?

Where does the "ask" come from?

Every one of us is on a search for meaning.

We are all on a quest (ion).

The arrow that points the way looks not like this: -> but like

this: ?


All of us, no matter what conclusions we've come to, are driven by the same thing- WE HAVE TO FIND THE ANSWERS!


Everythin we experience, everything we learn, every bit of information we process, is being integrated by our brains, and we will not have peace of mind until we create some kind of cohesion.


Whatever your view of the Bible may be, whether you believe it is divinely inspired or the product of human effort, you would have to at least acknowledge that it, like all other religious texts, is a part of the grand story of humanity searching for meaning.


Every world religion, every philosophy, every belief system- from anthropology to astrology to sociology to psychology to mythology to science itself- is trying to propose a cohesive view of reality. They're all trying to make sense of life. We're all tyring to figure out who we are, why we're here, what this whole thing is about.


If you're sophisticated, you can see the flaws and fallacies of so many different belief systems. You might even look down with condescension at those who believe what you would consider simplistic answers to the complex problems in the world. We once were convinced that the world was flat; that if we danced, the rain would come; that the stars determined our fate in life.


We have outgrown so many fairy tales that we once believed were reality. Maybe it's an inherent flaw in the human species, but we are all predisposed to believe. We'll believe in just about anything. If they catch us young enough , we'll believe without consideration-


Santa Claus, cystals, tooth fairy, spirits, Easter bunny, demons, Ghosts, angels, vampires, Buddha, bogeymen, Allah, karma, Krishna, reincarnation, Jehovah, feng shui, Jesus


The list is endless.


While we may be able to systematically eliminate everything we believe that later we discover isn't real, we can't escape the very thing that's right in front of us. Every one of us, regardless of race or language or education or generation, regardless of all the variables possible to make us different, is still inclined to believe in something.


While we may disagree on what we believe in and we may argue violently about what is true, what we can't escape is that we are all on the same quest and our soul craving is to find something we can believe in.


Soul Cravings, A Exploration of the Human Spirit, Meaning, Entry 7


by Erwin Mcmanus

Tuesday, September 18, 2007

Journeying Home

To my mind came the answer, 'If God wills to show you more, he will be your light. You need none but him.' It was he whom I saw and yet sought.
For here we are so blind and foolish that we never seek God until he, of his goodness, shows himself to us...
So I saw him and sought him; I had him and wanted him.
- Julian of Norwich

We shall not cease from exploration
And the end of all our exploring
Will be to arrive where we started
And know the place for the first time.
- T.S. Eliot, Four Quartets

We are God's children now;
it does not yet appear what we shall be
- 1John3:2

Let us suppose that we are doing a mountain walk to the village which is our home. At midday we come to the top of a cliff where we are, in space, very near it because it is just below us. We could drop a stone into it. But as we are no cragsmen we can't get down. We must go a long way round; five miles maybe. At many points during that detour we shall, statically, be far further from the village than we were when we sat above the cliff. But only statically. In terms of progress we shall be far "nearer" our baths and teas.
- C. S. Lewis, Four Loves

Quotes can be found in "Journeing Godward", Ch. 7 of Julian of Norwich, Reflections on Selected Texts, by Austin Cooper, 1986

Monday, August 27, 2007

2 cool quotes, 1 cool idea

Kurt Vonnegut

What should young people do with their lives today? Many things, obviously. But the most daring thing is to create stable communities in which the terrible disease of loneliness can be cured.

-In loneliness, Kurt Vonnegut

I'll tell you what a human soul is, It's the part of you that knows when your brain isn't working right.

Galapagos, Vonnegut

To be one with the madness and chaos of life is just as important as being one with the natural romance found in our universe and the former seems seriously underdeveloped in our society and culture. Maybe that's why we have so many therapists and Tom Cruise's jumping off couches!

Maybe that's also why John Eldridge supports being a warrior before a lover in his stages of masculinity. If done in that order a warrior will deal with some of life's toughest challenges first and then as a lover will be more able during calamity.

But it's not a question of which is better, warrior or lover, they are both equally important jobs covering equally important life elements.

In closing, I have a crush on every girl.

Thank you.

Thursday, August 23, 2007

Why Lauryn Hill is cool (as are idealists)

I'm a fan of her music but her style is really what's "dope". I've really been into this idea that there are 16 types of people out there, check out

http://keirsey.com/matrix.html

It pretty much makes sense that Ms. Hill is an idealist, being apart of only 10% of the population. Generally, idealists are highly concerned with moral and ethical issues combined with a personality that constantly seeks identity. AS SEEN in these clips from a recent Essence interview:



Hill: I don’t think I ever handled celebrity. For a period of time I had to step away entirely. At 23, you don’t know how to handle that in a diplomatic manner, especially when everybody around you has been affected by the money, the fame, the attention. Celebrity itself becomes an addiction. One of my hopes for artists today is that they don’t get trapped in images that don’t really reflect who they are. Everybody is sort of bound to this supercool, supermature, superperfect, superconsistent image. It looks great on the shelf but it can also hurt people, and stunt their growth, because their image is growing, but their persons are not.





Hill: It’s really about the Black woman falling in love with her own image of beauty. I know that I’ve been in a fight to love myself and experience reciprocity in a relationship. I thought that a perfectly reciprocal relationship was an impossibility. That’s that “Black woman is the mule of the world” thing. It says she can’t get what she deserves, no matter how dope she is. And, you know, you have to go through the fear. You do have to do something with the insecurity, ghosts and demons that have been programmed in us for centuries. You have to master the voices, all the insecure and inadequate men who put garbage in a woman’s mind, soul, spirit and psyche just so they can use her. You’ve got to break free of that crap. I didn’t see many of the women who came before me fight that war successfully. And when you don’t see it, you don’t know if it can be done. But that’s what faith is for.

Essence: And love?

Hill: I’m realizing now that you have to get love, period. Love is my food. Truth is my oxygen. I need those things. I’m sure there have been times I tried to deny myself love by staying in something safe or convenient. By the time I realized that that was not going to work, I was literally starving for oxygen. Now I realize that satisfaction, and the ability to affirm it, is my birthright. Happiness, joy, love, peace are all things I’m entitled to so long as I don’t compromise or settle for something less. --I feel the problems she has had with "celebrity" are nothing new for idealists. For a lot of idealists, our life is one big piece of art and one giant idea that never ends. Also for idealists life can sometimes be akin to a spiritual soap opera! I think that the reason few people understand her behaviour is because few people realize the implicit differences in people.

Plus she's married to one of Bob Marley's sons and has had four of his grandchildren. That in general will tend to add some cool points.

http://www.essence.com/essence/themix/entertainment/0,16109,1149478-1,00.html

Friday, July 13, 2007

Four turnings

From Alex McManus' blog:
"The Kinds of People the 21st Century Needs"

The 4 Turnings…

In 1991 or so, George Hunter mentioned, during a presentation in East Los Angeles, the 4 turnings –repentances — of the human heart that help create the kinds of people the Kingdom needs.

The four turnings are these:

  1. A turning to Jesus Christ as Lord
  2. A turning to some form of Christ following community
  3. A turning to the Scriptures
  4. A turning back to the world on mission

These turnings can happen in any order. That these can happen in any order must be emphasized. Many will belong to the community of faith for a season before ever believing in Jesus. Others will be on mission to the world before reading and centering the scripture. Some will believe in Jesus but will hesitate to identify with a Christ following community.

For more: www.alexmcmanus.org

Thursday, July 5, 2007

Quotes from Gibran



Quotes from Kahil Gibran

Imagination sees the complete reality, - it is where past, present and future meet... Imagination is limited neither to the reality which is apparent - nor to one place. It lives everywhere. It is at a centre and feels the vibrations of all the circles within which east and west are virtually included. Imagination is the life of mental freedom. It realizes what everything is in its many aspects ... Imagination does not uplift: we don't want to be uplifted, we want to be more completely aware. Dated 7th June 1912

I realized that all the trouble I ever had about you came from some smallness or fear in myself. Dated 12th June 1912

If I can open a new corner in a man's own heart to him I have not lived in vain. Life itself is the thing, not joy or pain or happiness or unhappiness. To hate is as good as to love - an enemy may be as good as a friend. Live for yourself - live your life. Then you are most truly the friend of man. - I am different every day - and when I am eighty, I shall still be experimenting and changing. Work that I have done no longer concerns me - it is past. I have too much on hand in life itself. Dated 25th December 1912

His love is as restful as Nature itself. He has no standard for you to conform to, no choice about you, but is simply with your reality, just as Nature is. You are real, so is he: the two realities love each other - voila ! Dated 29th December 1912

A man can be free without being great, but no man can be great without being free. Dated 16th May 1913
What-to-Love is a fundamental human problem. And if we have this solution - Love what may Be- we see that this is the way Reality loves - and that there is no other loving that lasts or understands. Dated 2nd February 1925

Monday, July 2, 2007

Trapped in the Present



The Religious Man or Woman is a popular story option in which we try to reduce the wildness of life by constructing a system of promises and rewards, a contract that will obligate God to grant us exemption from the Arrows. It really doesn't matter what the particular group bargain is—doctrinal adherence, moral living, or some sort of spiritual experience—the desire is the same: taming God in order to tame life. Never mind those deep yearnings of the soul; never mind the nagging awareness that God is not cooperating. If the system isn't working, it's because we're not doing it right. There's always something to work on, with the promise of abundant life just around the corner. Plenty of churches and leaders are ready to show you how to cut a deal.



These stories comprise what James McClendon calls the "tournament of narratives" in our culture, a clash of many small dramas competing for our heart. Through baseball and politics and music and sex and even church, we are searching desperately for a Larger Story in which to live and find our role. All of these smaller stories offer a taste of meaning, adventure, or connectedness. But none of them offer the real thing; they aren't large enough. Our loss of confidence in a Larger Story is the reason we demand immediate gratification. We need a sense of being alive now, for now is all we have. Without a past that was planned for us and a future that waits for us, we are trapped in the present. There's not enough room for our souls in the present.

(The Sacred Romance , 42–43) by John Eldredge
From The Ransomed Heart, by John Eldredge, reading 183 Ransomed Heart Ministries http://www.ransomedheart.com/
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Thursday, June 21, 2007

Emotional Dynamism: Playing the Music of Leadership

Emotional Dynamism: Playing the Music of Leadership by Terri Egan, PhD, and Ann E. Feyerherm, PhD


A new framework for leveraging the power of emotions.



Once thought of as something to be managed, controlled, or avoided in pursuit of rational management, we now understand that emotions play a vital role in many facets of leadership. New discoveries in neuroscience, medicine, and psychology underscore the notion that emotions are the pathway to more effective decision-making, stronger interpersonal relationships, resilience in the face of stress, and enhanced creativity. This article introduces the idea of Emotional Dynamism—a new framework for understanding how a leader can leverage the power of emotions. We also include questions for assessing Emotional Dynamism and recommendations for self development.

Emotional Intelligence (EI) has joined IQ as one mark of a well-rounded leader. While there are many measures and conceptualizations of emotional intelligence[1] (EI as behavior, cognitive ability, part of one's personality, or self competence), there are some concepts that appear frequently. These are self-awareness, self-regulation, empathy, and social skills.[2]
EI has been associated with transformational leadership capacities such as inspiration, motivation, and vision. Studies of leader EI and performance suggest that higher levels of EI are associated with higher ratings of leader performance by followers as well as with organizational effectiveness.[3]


While the "what" and the "why" of emotional intelligence have been fairly well established, the "how" has generally been neglected. This article offers a framework for how one might develop emotional intelligence through the characteristic that we call Emotional Dynamism.
Emotional Dynamism is the extent to which one can access a full range of emotions, modulate the intensity of any one emotion, move through emotional states smoothly and quickly, and integrate one's emotional state with what one is thinking, one's physical state, and one's creative capacity. The four dimensions of Emotional Dynamism are: emotional range, emotional intensity, emotional fluidity, and emotional integration.[4]

Just as the full range of a Steinway grand piano is required to bring the score of a Mozart concerto to life, so Emotional Dynamism is a precursor to the extraordinary benefits of emotions and the development of emotional intelligence[5]—you can’t enjoy the benefits of a beautiful piano concerto with a musician who can play only half of the keys, is incapable of modulating the volume through delicate or dramatic passages, repeats a refrain endlessly, and ignores the rest of the orchestra.

As with the full keyboard and the complete orchestra, each element of Emotional Dynamism has important implications for leadership. We present further definitions of each dimension of Emotional Dynamism below, along with some questions for self-assessments as well as suggestions for developing additional capacity in each area.

Emotional Range

If we consider the keys of the piano as a metaphor, range is the use of all the notes—high and low, major and minor—in our composition and playing. Those of us who have taken piano lessons know that we learned the simple songs first, ones composed of notes occurring within one octave. As we grew in ability, our compositions encompassed a greater variety and scope of the keyboard’s range of notes.


Some of us have an impoverished understanding of the range of human emotions. We understand mad, sad, and happy and are perhaps only able to report and feel comfortable with those basic emotions. This range of emotions is analogous to playing only Chopsticks. However, as our emotional sophistication grows, we can cover a wider range. The emotionally dynamic leader can access hundreds of emotions beyond the six primary emotions of happiness, sadness, fear, anger, surprise and disgust.[6]

Range of Leadership Emotions


Emotional range is the ability to discern a wide range of emotions in both oneself and others and to be intentional about the expression of those emotions. By accessing our full range of emotions, we obtain valuable information about ourselves and the world in which we operate.
Compassion and empathy require that we identify with the emotions of others. If we are uncomfortable with particular emotions, we tend to avoid or deny them in ourselves, thus denying access to important information about the particular set of events, circumstances, or people that gave rise to those emotions. In addition, we cannot identify with or may seek to avoid emotions in others that we are not comfortable acknowledging within ourselves.
It is difficult to be compassionate or have empathy if we cannot "see" certain emotions. Recently, a group of managers from a large company participating in a leadership development program viewed pictures of people expressing different emotions. The managers who were uncomfortable with particular emotions were unable to see the faces of individuals expressing those emotions.


Questions for Self-Assessment


Which emotions are easiest for me to accept in myself and others? Make a list.
When have I received feedback about my empathy or lack thereof?
What needs do I have that are being fulfilled or frustrated?
How do those needs relate to my emotional range?

Developing Emotional Range


One of the frequent reasons for lack of emotional range is that we are consciously or unconsciously avoiding particular emotions. Therefore, a development activity would be to understand the basis for your avoidance. Are there situations in which you experienced an undesirable outcome when you expressed a particular emotion? Do any of the cultures that influence you (national, gender, family, professional) have sanctions against expressing particular emotions?


Another avenue of development is to explore and evoke unfamiliar emotions. We can train ourselves to recognize subtle emotions by viewing photographs and matching facial expressions with emotional states.[7] Our own emotional state is impacted by our facial expression. Try making different facial expressions and note the differences that occur in your emotional state.


Emotional Intensity

Emotional Intensity is our capacity to turn a particular emotion "up" or "down" and the degree to which our emotional response appropriately matches a situation. Think of the importance of modulating volume in a piece of music. Just as the great composers used intensity to communicate different musical intentions, our emotional intensity lets others know what is going on inside of us.


Perhaps you have worked with someone who is either "on" or "off" or goes from mild irritation to extreme anger without any warning. Such rapid transformations can be quite disconcerting for followers. Leaders lacking the ability to modulate their emotional intensity may be unpredictable and, therefore, difficult to trust.


If your volume is always low but someone else has an expanded capacity in the area of emotional intensity, you may mistake their moderate expression for a more extreme statement. The result may be miscommunication. Your sensitivity in accurately interpreting the emotional expression of others and the degree to which you respond to a situation with an appropriate level of emotional intensity is a sign of emotional stability that engenders confidence in those you lead.


Questions for Self-Assessment


Do I have a habitual level of emotional intensity? Am I always "on" or always "off"?
How long does it take before I recognize that I am in a particular emotional state?
Are people sometimes surprised by my emotional expression/s?


Developing Emotional Intensity

A restriction in your emotional intensity may be due to your failure to "register" internal emotional states or your reluctance to be emotionally expressive in particular situations. In some cases expressing emotions is appropriate; in other situations we are unduly restricted or delayed in our emotional expressions. Keep a log of your emotional reactions to situations. Notice when you are blocking emotions and when emotions erupt without warning.
Make a conscious choice about what to do when you recognize an emotional state in others or in yourself. With practice, develop the ability to monitor your emotional state and to match your expressions to each situation. Seek feedback from trusted others about how they experience your emotional intensity.


Emotional Fluidity

The ability to move between emotional states as called for by a situation without getting “stuck” or fleeing too rapidly is termed Emotional Fluidity. Using the piano example, a fluid player is one who is limber and can play either rapidly or at a leisurely pace—whatever is called for by the score. Such a player would not get "stuck" playing a particular set of notes or a passage in a concerto.



In an emotional situation, those with emotional fluidity can get beyond the emotion of a given moment. In contrast, others will seem fixated or stuck in an emotion, perhaps seeming sluggish in their ability to respond appropriately and quickly. This may be more likely to occur with negative emotions or with emotions that are unresolved. A particular emotional state may be a familiar and comfortable place to be. However, according to Barbara Fredrickson's[8] work on positive emotions and management, being "stuck" narrows one's decision-making capability. Frustration can also arise in self or others over how long you (or others) stay in this state before trying to move on.


The implications for developing emotional fluidity are many. As you give yourself wider decision-making space, you will be able to flow with the situation or even change the dynamics of the situation. Lack of fluidity tends to dilute the ability to experience other things in one's surroundings. For example, a leader who is stuck in the frustration of a failed project may fail to generate enough enthusiasm to motivate his/her followers to pursue a new opportunity. Such is the effect of "tunnel vision," that is, when one does not see the options that are available. Others can also become frustrated with a leader who is "stuck," even if the emotion is a positive one such as hope or optimism. If the situation calls for a somber response, an overly positive reaction from a leader may be viewed as out of touch and emotionally disconnected.


Questions for Self-Assessment

When was the last time that you had difficulty letting go of an emotional state? What was happening; who was involved? Is this a pattern? What were the results of these situations?
When have you been able to move to another emotional state? What was happening, who was involved? Is there any pattern?


Contrast your answers to the two questions above. Can you learn anything about your patterns?
Developing Emotional Fluidity


Practice moving off of a particular emotional note such as happiness, anger or frustration—whichever makes you feel most comfortable. Notice how long you stay in a particular state. Ask yourself, “Why am I feeling this emotion?" "What is the trigger for this emotion?” or “Is this emotion coloring my experience?”


When you find yourself with limited options, take note of your emotional state and consciously filter it through mental review, self dialogue, or the stimulation of pictures or music. Now think of alternative options for resolving this issue.


Emotional Integration

Emotional Integration is our ability to understand how our emotions are interconnected with our thoughts, our physical well-being, and our creative expression. An orchestral piece requires integration of all the orchestra's contributing instruments. Leaving out the string or brass section leaves the audience with an incomplete understanding of the artistic merit of the composition. Similarly, leaders who miss the opportunity to see how their emotions impact their thoughts, sensations, and creativity are operating at less than full capacity.
Rational thought and emotion are inextricably linked. In his book Descartes' Error, Antonio Damasio puts to rest the idea that emotions are disconnected from thinking. In fact, when brain trauma injures one's center of emotions, individuals are rendered incapable of making even the simplest decisions.[9]


Similarly, how we think about a situation impacts our emotional state. We have the capacity to create emotions from thoughts. Simply considering the range of emotions that one can experience during the day suggests that the emotions we select for attention are likely to grow.
Our language also reflects the notion that our emotions are strongly connected to our body and to physical sensations: "I have butterflies in my stomach." "She is a pain in the neck." "I feel the weight of the world on my shoulders." "I feel light as a feather." Such common expressions connect emotional states such as anxiety, frustration, dread, and being carefree with physical sensations. Many of us experience our emotions through our physical sensations before we become conscious of them at the intellectual level. Similarly, our emotional state impacts our physical well-being and our ability to recover from traumatic events and illness.Creativity
Creativity depends on our ability to make novel connections, solve unusual problems, and see beyond ordinary circumstances. While creative performance has been clearly associated with positive effect, new research suggests that a full range of emotions is important for innovation.
Recent work by Christina Ting Fong at the University of Washington found that ambivalent feelings such as simultaneously experiencing excitement and anxiety were associated with increased ability to make novel connections, thereby suggesting that emotional range may be associated with creativity.[10] Negative emotions tend to limit one's ability to see options. Thus, being stuck in the negative zone may limit a leader's ability to make sound decisions and to formulate strategic responses to novel and challenging situations.


Questions for Self-Assessment

What is my body's emotional signaling system? Can I learn to use it to develop different aspects of Emotional Dynamism? Will it tell me when I am experiencing a particular emotion or when I am stuck in a pattern of response? How do I incorporate my emotions—my “gut”—into my decision-making process? Is my lack of emotional fluidity keeping me from seeing opportunities or dealing with challenges Am I aware of the flow/creative state? When is it easy for me to enter the state? What emotions keep me from entering the flow?


Developing Emotional Integration and Creativity

Developing Emotional Integration requires that the leader understand his or her patterns of emotional response. Each of us has a set of beliefs about the world that informs our reactions. Do you understand your set of beliefs? How connected are you to your physical sensations?
Take a class that helps you become more attuned to your whole self. Develop a shorthand for understanding what is happening with you physically and how it relates to your emotional state. Use your strong emotional reactions as a signal to "check-in" with what is happening around you. If you are having a strong reaction, ask yourself what is happening. Is it a trigger from your past, or a source of information from the here and now?


Leaders who are emotionally integrated see patterns in their emotional responses, are sensitive to how they respond physically to emotions, and use emotional information to inform their cognition.


Conclusion

The complexity and challenges of our times call for leaders to develop all of their capabilities. Emotions often seem to be a mysterious aspect of what it means to be human. Our intent has been to create a framework so that the "mystery" is replaced with an understanding of how to identify and develop one's emotional capacity. We believe that leaders who develop Emotional Dynamism will be able to leverage the power of their emotions. Like a master pianist who captures the power and majesty of a composition, an emotionally dynamic leader brings forth the "music" of the organization in all its complexity and inspires others to achieve their own potential as they contribute to the organization.

For more information on Emotional Intelligence see J.D. Mayer, P. Salovey, and D.R. Caruso. Models of Emotional Intelligence, (2000), In R.J. Sternberg (Ed.), Handbook of Human Intelligence, 2nd Ed., (New York: Cambridge University Press), 396-420, and D. Goleman. "Leadership that Gets Results," Harvard Business Review, (March-April, 2000, 78-92)
Terri Egan, PhD, is an associate professor of applied behavioral science and a core faculty member in the Masters of Science in Organizational Development (MSOD) program. Her award-winning research has been published in a number of journals including Administrative Science Quarterly, Organization Science, The Information Society, and The Appreciative Inquiry Practitioner. She is on the advisory board of the Clearinghouse for Information on Values and Ethics in Organization and Human Systems Development. Dr. Tegan and her colleagues have developed an integral model of leadership development that addresses the intellectual, emotional, physical, and creative aspects of increasing human and organizational capacity. terri.egan@pepperdine.edu

Ann E. Feyerherm, PhD, is Director of the Masters of Science in Organization Development (MSOD) program and chair of the organization theory and Mmnagement discipline. Previously, Dr. Feyerherm spent 11 years as a manager of organization development at Procter & Gamble. As a consultant she worked with top-level companies on projects ranging from team function to leadership development and managing change. Dr. Feyerherm's research focuses on government, business, environmental community collaboration and increasing human capacity through strength-based approaches. She is currently serving a five-year leadership position within the Organization Development and Change Division of the Academy of Management. ann.feyerherm@pepperdine.edu

[1] The concept of multiple intelligence was first outlined by H. Gardner in his 1983 book, Frames of Mind: The Theory of Multiple Intelligences, (New York: Basic Books, 1993).
[2] These four components are associated with D. Goleman's model of emotional intelligence. See Emotional Intelligence: Why It Can Matter More Than IQ, (New York: Bantam Books, 1996).
[3] V. Druskat, G. Mount, and F. Sala (Eds.). Linking Emotional Intelligence and Performance at Work: Current Research Evidence with Individuals and Groups (New Jersey: Lawrence Erlbaum and Associates: 2005).
[4] The concept of Emotional Dynamism was first presented by co-authors, T. Egan and A. Feyerherm, at the 2006 Western Academy of Management in a session entitled: Beyond Emotional Intelligence: The Role of Emotions in Personal and Professional Discovery.
[5] We are grateful to our colleague S. Lahl, MSOD, who first introduced us to the metaphor of a piano keyboard representing the range of human emotions. [6] Table adapted from emotions presented in W. Parrott. Emotions in Social Psychology, (Philadelphia: Psychology Press, 2001).
[7] The work of P. Ekman demonstrates that emotional range can be extended through training using photographs. For more information see P. Ekman. Emotions Revealed: Recognizing Faces and Feelings to Improve Communication and Emotional Life, (New York: Owl Books, 2004).
[8] B.L. Fredrickson. "Positive Emotions and Upward Spirals in Organizational Settings," (2003) in K. Cameron, J. Dutton, and R. Quinn (Eds.). Positive Organizational Scholarship.
[9] A. Damasio. Descartes' Error: Emotion Reason and the Human Brain, (New York: Avon Books, (1994).
[10] Tina Ting Fong. "The Effects of Emotional Ambiguity on Creativity," Academy of Management Journal, 49, no. 5 (October 2006): 1016-1030.

Tuesday, June 12, 2007

Happiness is a shadow

A Hebrew saying/proverb/story says God is like the Sun, and Happiness shadows. If you turn your back toward God and chase Happiness, you will never catch it. But if you follow God, Happiness will always follow you.

Reminds me of another way to put it: Seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. (Matthew 6)

(Heard Ravi Zacharias told this story. Check him out, especially you philosophical types).

Thursday, May 31, 2007

The Last Samurai



by Richard Rohr
Soon after giving the recent conference on “The Spirituality of the Two Halves of Life”, I went to see the movie, The Last Samurai. I heard that it had some good messages in it, and some wonderful Japanese culture and scenery.

I came away with a clear insight into first half of life morality, why it is so attractive and compelling, good for society and culture, but also why it is NOT the Gospel but simply its best counterfeit! It helped me see how utterly courageous, unique, and counter-intuitive the teaching of Jesus really is. His message is not about superior will power or persona discipline, but about something that, when it is authentic, always looks like weakness. Love has to first lose before it can win. This is the paradox that only second half of life people are prepared to understand. In Christian language, death must always precede resurrection.


To summarize and oversimplify the book and movie The Last Samurai, the story has Japanese culture at a crossroads between Westernization, modern warfare, better technology, and the ancient Samurai culture of honor, discipline, tradition, and the martial arts that had created a very attractive “spirituality” and noble worldview. One is in awe at the perfection of their lives, and the control that characterizes their every move. Naturally, one identifies with the noble Samurai culture, and laments the later, less honorable war technology.

Tom Cruise, playing Nathan Aldren, symbolizes that change of identity, and he becomes a hero in our minds by the end of the movie, as does the whole Samurai culture. I myself was in tears as the noble Samurai were being mowed down or committed heroic suicide rather than suffer a loss of honor or bear the shame of losing. Who would not be moved by such focus, courage, and determination? They were self sacrificing heroes for what they believed.

But eventually it struck me that both parties, the Japanese army and the noble Samurai, were both in first half of life morality and were in most ways morally equivalent. They were both demanding blood and ego survival. It was all about power. The Samurai were merely MORE disciplined and boundaried in the ways of ego, control, and power—and we admire that and call it religion! We have, for most of history, confused willpower with love, endurance with grace, ego control with ego surrender. It is probably refined culture and even good social “religion”, but we cannot continue to call it Christianity. It is not the Gospel.


Most people will continue to think of it as a high level of virtue, when it is still ego based, shame based, and death based. It passes for high morality, and it probably is in anyone un-influenced by Jesus. It is excellent and admirable first half of life morality, just like Eagle Scouts, Marines, Opus Dei, and patriots are in America. Tribalism always substitutes loyalty to the group for universal love, and unfortunately most tribe members buy it. It looks like superiority and sacrifice—and it is—but only inside of its own closed system, a system that has not been infected by the “virus” of the Gospel. Unfortunately, it is inside of that closed system, tribal morality, that most people live their whole lives. They confuse group admiration with God admiration. (John 5:44)


The teaching of Jesus, what we call the Gospel, is clearly second half of life morality, and thus will always be a minority position (As is the authentic teaching of the Buddha). In what first appears to be an upside down world, he teaches that powerless is the only road to true power, vulnerability is the doorway to the soul, killing is never an advancement nor noble, but always a reactive repetition and a dead end. Jesus is not a West Point cadet, a well regulated seminarian, a Samurai or any will-to-power (Adler) whatsoever. He is a crucified lover, and appears to be losing and failing by every measurable criteria. Only those who have passed over themselves will be ready to fully receive him. The following of Jesus is the only path that teaches us how to win by losing, and not by control, self control, or superiority games. It is about giving up control not taking control. Jesus absolutely levels the playing field of salvation, which is where we all are anyway--and where he frees us to be. But be forewarned, it will always leave the ego dissatisfied. We would rather have satisfying untruth than dissatisfying truth, which is another name for the Gospel.

Richard Rohr, OFM

Sunday, April 29, 2007

"We already are"

Check out Week 429 "We Already Are (Matt 28)" - if you need a good shaking, like I did.

I listened to this on a Friday, and on Sunday, guess which passage was discussed at the church I went to? Yep.

Sunday, April 22, 2007

From the mind of G. K. Chesterton



The man authored one of my favorite books; he captured his spiritual journey in the most challenging, helpful, insightful, entertaining package. Reading it was like being splashed with a bucket of cold water - when you deserve it. Shocking, but refreshing. And then you laugh. It's the best.

If you know C.S. Lewis or Philip Yancey - they are both big fans.

He's worth a read. Warning: Two friends who are reader-types said they couldn't get into it (Orthodoxy). Bear in mind he's a pre-television writer and not as accessible as say, Lewis, but if you are patient and end up getting into it, it will blow your mind.

Below is a sampling of quotes, should you decide not to attempt a book.

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An adventure is only an inconvenience rightly considered. An inconvenience is an adventure wrongly considered.

I believe in getting into hot water; it keeps you clean.

Fallacies do not cease to be fallacies because they become fashions.



Man seems to be capable of great virtues but not of small virtues; capable of defying his torturer but not of keeping his temper.

Poets have been mysteriously silent on the subject of cheese.


The Bible tells us to love our neighbors, and also to love our enemies; probably because they are generally the same people.

The most astonishing thing about miracles is that they happen.

The riddles of God are more satisfying than the solutions of man.

Love means loving the unlovable - or it is no virtue at all.

The Christian ideal has not been tried and found wanting; it has been found difficult and left untried.

To have a right to do a thing is not at all the same as to be right in doing it.

The poet only asks to get his head into the heavens. It is the logician who seeks to get the heavens into his head. And it is his head that splits.

A dead thing can go with the stream, but only a living thing can go against it.

More here.